A plain guide for fathers going through separation and divorce in Japan
Most fathers enter the family-court process without knowing how it works or what is realistic. This site explains what usually happens, stage by stage, and what you can do at each point. Much of it applies to any parent who lives apart from their child.
What happens next
The process stage by stage: separation, mediation, support, visitation, and what a judge will and won't do.
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A visitation journal template, handover checklist, message templates, a glossary, and questions to ask your lawyer.
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Describe where you are in the process and get a plain picture of the next few steps, in English or Japanese.
Ask a questionFive things worth knowing at the start
- Practice moves more slowly than the law. Since April 2026 parents can share parental authority after divorce. What courts actually do changes far more slowly than the statute.
- An agreement can give more than a ruling. A plan both parents sign in mediation can be far more flexible than anything a judge will order. Keeping mediation going is usually worth it.
- Keep a record. Write up every visit the same day. It reassures the mediators about what you are asking for, and it protects you later.
- Keep messages short and practical. Send nothing you would not want read aloud in court.
- Give way on small things early. Handover place, notice, timing. Hold on the one thing that matters: regular time with your child.